There’s a lot more to loving and even living with another human being than just physical attraction. Yes, where there’s a spark a fire is sure to follow, but it takes more to keep a fire like that going than just simply being around. There are those who attend couples counseling to help them revive that very spark that attracted them in the first place. Various problems can arise in a relationship, be it external influences or even little problems that remain unsolved until one day – it’s a big problem that ‘can’t’ be solved.
Therapy can help you reconnect with your loved one and there are a few simple things you may want to remember.
Communication is Key
Talk with your partner, even if it’s a little thing that’s bothering you. Discuss it with him/her so that they can understand what is going through your mind. Unfortunately, most significant others aren’t mind readers.
Be Sure
Therapy isn’t for everyone. Some people aren’t comfortable airing what they believe to be ‘dirty laundry’ in-front of a perfect stranger, regardless of that stranger’s profession. Make sure that this relationship is something you really do want to work on. It is not easy to attend counseling, but it could be worth it.
Don’t waste time
As soon as these little frustrating problems arise, the ones that make you feel frustrated and perhaps even neglected: discuss the option of couple’s therapy. Do it now when the problem is ‘fresh’ instead of a good couple of years down the line when the problem has cemented itself into a habit and the frustration or feelings of neglect consume you all the time. Don’t let fear stop you when it comes to couples counseling.
Be Comfortable
Again, very few like to air their dirty laundry in front of a perfect stranger. Find a certified counselor that you can be comfortable with. This is someone that you will entrust your relationship to and someone whose advice you’ll be taking in order to improve the quality of your own life.
Set Limits
In the digital age, everybody has a tendency to know your business before you or your significant other do. Be wary of social media and in that same breath, ask your friends to be supportive. Being told that your partner is a louse isn’t conducive to fixing your relationship, nor is it healthy for your mindset to have the people closest to you – put down your significant other.
Know your Headspace
If you’re uncertain as to whether or not you want to continue the relationship. Tell your therapist. Going to therapy doesn’t necessarily mean you HAVE no choice but to try and make your relationship work, counseling will just help you end it without any animosity on either side.
There are many different methods, which can be used to help you and your loved one either overcome your problems or end your relationship without animosity. At the end of the day, as with every relationship – you reap what you sow. The more effort you put into it, the more you’ll get out of it
